Active AimA Journey and Destination

Is building self esteem for teens different from that of a child? The answer is yes because you are grown up

already and you now have the responsibility of choosing between right and wrong. You can make decisions

without consulting your parents every time and as long as you have positive self esteem, you will be able to

make the right decisions.

One of the challenges of being a teen is that your friends will put a lot of pressure on you. If you decide to go

against them, it could hurt your friendship with them which is why they sometimes do things that they don’t

normally to make sure they belong with the “in crowd.”

If you give in to pressure, you have low self esteem. What is worse is that you could hurt yourself or someone

else especially if you decide to start drinking below the required age, engage in sex practices when you are

not ready, get addicted to drugs, join a gang or even quit school.

When you ask an adult or and a teen what is the definition of self esteem, both will say something different.

For parents, this is the way we look at ourselves but to the teen, it is how they want people to look at who

they are.

As you can see, the two answers don’t match and the reason for this is the age gap. Adults have already been

through a lot in life and their experience has shown them the path. On the other hand, teens are still in that

period of discovery and they will most likely commit a lot of mistakes before becoming more mature in their

lives.

Given that both see it differently, it does not yet excuse the parents to try and steer their sons or daughters in

the correct path. The best way to do that is to be open to their teens and be around when they are needed

especially when they are confused.

For instance, if the teen wants to try a new sport, the parents should wish their kids well and hope that this

will work out. If it doesn’t, they should be ready to comfort them and give them credit for trying.

If the teen gets into trouble, the parents will have to correct the improper behavior. While most parents scold

their kids the instant something happens, they should remember that it is more effective to them like adults

because they are no longer babies. By explaining to them what they did and making them understand the

repercussions of their actions, they will not make the same mistake again.

But is it just the parents who build the self esteem of the teens? The answer is no because teachers should do

their share when these individuals come to school. Of course there are rules that the student must abide by

but by inspiring the teens to excel in their studies, the teacher can be sure that they will succeed in college

and later on in life.

After all the support from the parents, the teachers and the friends, the teen will soon realize that they will be

the ones that will have to develop their self esteem. The people around merely helped the individual realize

who he or she is and if they want to succeed, they have to figure out what they have to do on their own.

I wound up volunteering to coach basketball, a game I new nearly nothing about. Shortly after I wound up with the job, a parent approached me and asked what sort of coaching style I was going to use. After I managed to clear up the blank look on my face and stammer out some lame answer, I drove quickly to the privacy of my own home to avoid any more questions, and thus, not let my inexperience be known, for I knew after that question that I was in way over my head.

At the time I was probably more suited to coach football, but basketball was what I was dealt. A buddy of mine who had played basketball in high school told me that his coach had used a hands-on coaching style. The coach played with the athletes, showing them the different techniques to use, and what situation to use them in, etc…However, he also pointed out that coaching basketball is more than just playing basketball with the kids like his coach did, but coaching is also about teaching fundamental skills that the players will use for life, as well as team work.

Feeling even more hopeless and confused after this conversation I set out to do heavy research on the topic of coaching basketball. I immediately realized that a large list of references existed to help me, which gave me a great feeling of relief. I had never thought of such concepts as team play, sportsmanship and sharing in regards to coaching sports before, but from my reading I began to get familiar with the topics and ideas. I quickly learned that basketball was about more than just putting a ball through a hoop.

As part of my research I began reading articles that focused on building skills and confidence level in young athletes while coaching. I did my best to absorb everything, but still felt that I might be a little out of my element coaching a basketball team. I had to constantly reassure myself that I could do it. The whole experience ultimately taught me that before you can coach other people you must be able to coach yourself, but I’m getting ahead of myself.

I’ve been coaching for six weeks now. I feel I’ve done a fair job of helping my players build skills and confidence levels they can use on the court and in the real world. This experience has taught me much about myself and about coaching. In regards to coaching, I have learned that it is not all fun and games, but a huge responsibility; however, I think I’ve prepared myself for the challenge. After all, my team is 5 and 1.

While coaching a team might seem a very attractive job to many a sports fan, it is not easy. I only coach at the Junior High level and it’s exhausting and stressful. I can’t imagine what it is like at the professional level, and I don’t want to. If you are interested in being a coach, make sure and give it some serious thought.

If you can read a map for traveling from Point A to Point B, then, here is a practical step-by-step manual detailing a method anyone can learn to use for coaching someone to change behaviors, or help them improve their self-esteem. The author has managed to mix the best tools of Esteem Therapy and Reality Therapy with the unique concept of “Behavior Mapping” in a very easy-to-understand way that anyone capable of coaching can immediately use. Detailed examples of how to use this method are given using case studies from working with normal families having children with very common problem behaviors. To underscore the significance of this method, an appendix is included with the results of a 3-year substance abuse treatment program conducted using the general techniques described in the book, while under contract with the Arizona Department of Juvenile Corrections. The success rates for both general recovery and improved self-esteem, etc. for the 108 cases was considered remarkable. While this book was written specifically for the lay person, those working in institutional settings, or child care of any kind can apply much of the knowledge presented here. Professionals certainly may benefit from the information included in the appendix.

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Don Lucia, coach of the University of Minnesota’s men’s hockey team talking about parents and coaches in youth hockey.

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ICF stands for International Coach Federation. This international body has been formed by professionals who are practitioners of business and personal coaching. It is a non-profit organization of individual members and is the biggest resource for business and personal coaches. People or organizations, seeking the services of a coach, can approach it to solve their business related problems.

A business coach is a professional who assists clients by facilitating the improvement in the performance of their business through specialized coaching skills, and acts as a catalyst for overall development and growth of the business.

Coaching is an arrangement of continued relationship between the client and the coach, in pursuit of achieving the goals and aspirations of the client. With the help of information supplied by the client, along with whatever information he is able to gather personally, the coach helps the client to realize organizational and personal goals much faster than would have been otherwise possible. The coach does this by increasing the level of awareness of the client, inducing him to become more responsible. He advises and helps the client by furnishing him with the necessary tools, lending support in their implementation, while also offering regular feedback.

Coaching is a field of the specialist. Any organization or person that needs the services of a professional coach would want to be sure that they get a person with the right skills and competence. They also need to be assured of his professional integrity because he would be allowing the coach access to confidential details of his business, without which it would not be possible to formulate corrective plans.

The ICF has developed a Code of Professional Standards for its members. It has also devised a university accepted accreditation system to standardize the credentials of its members. This would help prospective clients in choosing the right person for their needs.

A coach certified by the ICF is someone who has received professional training in accordance with the standards set by it. They are given coaching skills according to the ICF Competencies and Code of Ethics. A certified coach is then adjudged proficient in the knowledge and use of coaching techniques along the standards defined therein. It also means that the coach is accountable to the ethics and standards set by the ICF.

There are three levels of Coach Credential Certifications from the ICF. Basic certification requirements for each level are as follows:

a. An Associate Certified Coach (ACC) requires 60 hours of coach specific training, and100 hours of coaching experience with clients. He must satisfactorily complete the oral exam, and agree to adhere to the Code of Ethics as outlined by the ICF.

b. A Professional Certified Coach (PCC) requires 125 hours of coach specific training, with 750 hours of coaching experience with clients. Satisfactory completion of written and oral exams is necessary. Agree to adhere to the Code of Ethics as outlined by the ICF, and to continue professional development by renewing credentials every three years

c. A Master Certified Coach (MCC) requires 200 hours of coach specific training with 2,500 hours of coaching experience with clients. Satisfactory completion of written and oral exams is required. Demonstrated leadership within the profession is necessary. In addition, agreement to adhere to the Code of Ethics as outlined by the ICF and continued professional development to renew credentials every three years is called for.

The Annual Membership fee is $195 (USD). This is payable at one time. There are no provisions for the amount to be paid in installments.

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