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Language is indeed powerful. In fact, you unknowingly show others how you view the world by the words you use when speaking.

Experts tell us that people not only use language to describe the world they see, but language and the words used actually help to create the world people experience.

How so?

The words you use, encourage the subconscious to interpret reality in a way consistent with those words.

This powerful tool on the tips of our tongues not only affects us, but also affects people listening to us. So you can change the way someone else views the world by consciously choosing certain words to help their subconscious form a world view you desire.

How is this done?

Using language and words the right way, actually allows you to hypnotize someone you speak to. I don’t mean a complete hypnotic induction like you see in the movies, where someone lies on a couch. But rather, you can speak directly to their subconscious mind when you use the right words and tone of voice. This gives you the ability to influence people to view things the way you want them to.

This allows you to change how people behave by subliminally placing hypnotic suggestions during a friendly conversation.

What to say to do this?

Reaching the subconscious mind is not as hard as you may think. One of the best hypnotists ever, Milton Erickson, developed a model for what I will call conversational hypnosis that has three basic steps. This is called the Milton Model. The three stages of the Milton Model are:

Stage 1.

look for word clues in someone language to detect how they view the world. Especially, words revealing their feelings and what they see and hear. Once you spot the pattern you can use the person’s own experiences to draw attention from the world outside, to their own inner world.

One way to do this is to ask questions like What was that like for you? or How do you feel about that?

This is focusing them inward where they will understand how their world view makes them feel.

Stage 2.

The next stage of the Erickson Model is aimed at distracting the person’s conscious mind. Milton Erickson did this by speaking with complex and ambiguous langauge.

He would use words that sounded the same, but had different meanings, like wander/wonder, sale/sail, hear/here, right/write, You get the picture.

He liked using double binds, which only presented the desired options. For example, he might say the following: I can’t tell if you will enter a trance now, or in a few minutes.

This use of language allows the mind no options, except to go into a trance now or in a few minutes. This also uses an embedded command, to fall into a trance now or in a few minutes.

Incorrectly using words, distracts and confuses the conscious brain and causes it to turn inward for help from the subconscious brain.

Well, that’s a couple Milton Model techniques of mind distraction. I really don’t know if you would want to learn a lot more about the Milton Model of conversational hypnosis now or later
STAGE 3.

Once the mind has been distracted, the final step in the Milton Model is to access the subconscious minds resources.

You can do this in a couple of ways. The most basic is by embedding commands in questions or sentences, so that they are not too obvious to the conscious mind, but are very obvious to the subconscious mind.

Here are some examples:

–Who knows if you will certainly wash to dishes right away –You should do it, shouldn’t you? –You are going to do this, didn’t you? (this sounds like it doesn’t make any sense, but your subconscious mind will hear the command)

So, it sounds like all you need to do is say some confusing things to someone, with embedded commands and you can get her to do whatever you want.

Well, my answer to that is maybe.

The important point of conversational hypnosis is that you can only make someone do something that does not violate their beliefs and values.

You can definitely speak to someones subconscious mind using the Milton Model techniques, but it takes a lot more than a quick conversation to change someones values.

But, as you practice the Milton Model you will find that you will get better at influencing the people around you as long as you aren’t trying to manipulate them.

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