Active AimA Journey and Destination

If you are confident about your abilities, then you have high self-esteem. This is not something  you are born

with but rather developed and with it, you can be a winner.

But how do you get it? Well, you start to build it up the moment you are born. If they raised you right, you

will know what is right from wrong.

One way you will learn about that is to get disapproval sometimes for tasks that were not done properly. You

can also get it for doing something that you were not supposed to do but if this was explained properly, you

will know that this is something that must never be done. This will enable you to have good decision making

skills because there are consequences for everything you do.

So you are confident to take certain risks, your parents will encourage you try things and then be there if

things don’t work out. This will already teach you a little about your limitations and you will soon learn

more of that in the future.

From here, you already get the idea that building your self-esteem is not always about winning. Sometimes

you have to lose and face a few setbacks to make you a better person.

In sports, there is such a thing called sportsmanship. This is when you accept that you lost and shake your

opponent’s hand. By being able to acknowledge the achievements of others, you will soon have the courage

to try better and maybe next time, the outcome will be different.

Another thing that builds self-esteem is individuality. We are all born different. Some have dark skin while

others are lighter. Some are taller while others are shorter. Self-esteem teaches us to accept who we are so we

must never wish for things that we don’t have.

But are your parents the only ones that will make you feel confident and develop self-esteem? The answer is

no because later on, you will go to school so this will also be further developed by your teachers and your

friends.

In school, there are rules you need to follow similar to those that are done at home. With your friends, one of

the challenges is not giving in to peer pressure but this is not easy since we want to fit in.

With the different people around, you might get confused who to believe. When this happens, you just have to

trust your instinct. If you hear something bad, learn to ignore it and only accept what sounds good to your

ears.

Confidence and self-esteem go hand in hand because without the other, you will not be able to appreciate

who you are or even have the courage to take some risks. Do you have it? That is something you have to

answer for yourself but one way you can assess yourself is to write down on a piece of paper your qualities

and your accomplishments.

If you have not done that much in your life, it is never too late to start trying. If you need help, get the

support  of your family and friends. You can even get the help of a specialist who can figure out a plan to

help you achieve your dreams which would not be possible without confidence and self-esteem.