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Making Up With Your Ex With A Power Apology
Posted by Johnnie S Laney | Posted in Relationships | Posted on 23-04-2009
Most people have never been trained on how to apologize. We know to say Im sorry, but not much more than that. When your relationship has ended and you want your ex back, just saying Im sorry will probably not work that well.
Fortunately, there are deeper levels of apologies that we never learned in school. When you have lost your relationship and your love because you did something wrong to them, you will need to make a Power Apology.
A power apology can get your ex from anger to forgiveness sometimes in minutes when done correctly. Here are some of the important steps involved in making an apology that can get your ex back:
The first step in a Power Apology is to own up to what you did wrong. Don’t offer a bunch of stories or try to blame your ex “you were cold to me and I was drunk!” Fessing up to what you did wrong is powerful, it lets you mate know that you understand the core problem.
The second thing is to mirror their hurt feelings. You say something like “Hon, I know I made you feel betrayed and unloved and very say by cheating on you…” This is a very powerful form of emotional intelligence. When you mirror their hurt feelings, they will feel like you really do understand the impact of your actions.
The third step is to let them vent. Now you let them tell you how they feel about what you did wrong. You dont argue, you dont defend yourself, you let them get their angry and hurt feelings off their chest. Your only job here is to make them feel heard and understood.
Now you are making a powerful apology! You are being an adult, taking responsibility for what you did, mirroring their feelings, and letting them vent. This is crucial to helping your ex release and let go of their negative feelings, which they have to do before they can truly forgive you.
If you have followed these three steps first, you have set up a Power Apology. Now you can actually take the step of apologizing and saying I’m sorry for what you did. At this point, your ex is much more likely to consider forgiving you, which can lead to taking you back.
