Active AimA Journey and Destination

“Change” has been the big topic of conversation for some time now. For the most part, the change that everyone writes about and talks about is economic change. There has been much written about the change from a manufacturing economy to a service economy and there has been much written about the movement of manufacturing jobs off shore, but I want to concentrate on another kind of change. Willis Harman wrote a whole book about it in 1987 entitled, “Global Mind Change.” To paraphrase a line in this book, society’s experience shapes it’s science and science shapes the experience of it’s society.

We have been educated to assume that our scientific view of reality is correct. Harman suggests that there may be other views of reality that are complementary. He continues by proposing a reunion of science and metaphysics. He states, “The fundamental change that we are suggesting is happening in Western society can be put in terms of these metaphysics. Essentially, it is a shift of dominant metaphysic from M-1 to M-3.”

Where:

M-1. The basic stuff of the universe is matter-energy. Consciousness emerges out of matter. Consciousness apart from a living organism is inconceivable.

M-2. Matter-energy and mind-spirit stuff both exist in the universe. Matter-energy stuff is studied with science. Mind-spirit stuff must be studied in other ways.

M-3. Consciousness is the ultimate stuff of the universe and matter-energy comes in some sense out of consciousness.

Margaret Wheatley in her award-winning best seller, “Leadership and the New Science” suggests that, “we let go of the machine model of organizations, and workers as replaceable cogs in the machinery of production, we begin to see ourselves in much richer dimensions, to appreciate our wholeness, and, hopefully, to design organizations that honor and make use of the great gift of who we humans are.” She believes that ownership is essential and suggests that ownership is not only literal owners, but describes personal connections to the organization that inspire people to contribute. Participation in the development of a plan of action creates ownership. In fact, we participate in the creation of everything we observe. In a sense, we are owners of everything we observe.

We have all seen the progression where raw data when properly analyzed and organized becomes information. Information in turn is the basis of intelligence and intelligence the basis of wisdom. Historically, management has worked to control information. Wheatley uses scientific support to suggest that for a system to remain alive, it must have a steady flow of new information.

Much has been written about the fact that information is exploding. We know that more information was produced between 1965 and 1995 than in the preceding 5000 years and that knowledge is now doubling every 5 years. Technology certainly has fostered the explosion, but it has also made this information available to more people as well. It is no longer practical to use a traditional building block approach to information. We need what is described in quantum physics as relational holism.

Wheatley suggests that the new science reminds us that this is a participative universe and that nothing living lives alone. We are constantly called to be in a relationship and through relationships we co-create our world. With that in mind, we make systems stronger by connecting to more of itself. Webs and networks are stronger than single connections. Participation is the key.

The May-July 2004 issue of “What is Enlightenment” has some incredible articles about collective intelligence. In an article entitled, “The Science of Collective Consciousness” Robert Kenny provides strong evidence that collective consciousness exists and can be used to produce benefits. Another great article entitled, “Come Together” by Craig Hamilton, reports, “Call it collective consciousness, team synergy, co-intelligence or group mind – a growing number of people are discovering through their own experience that wholes are indeed far more than the sum of their parts; that when individuals come together with a shared intention, in a conducive environment, something mysterious can come into being, with capacities and intelligences that far transcend those of the individuals involved.”

While we may not yet be able to exactly define collective wisdom or how it works, it is working. There are a bunch of collective intelligence initiatives underway including: World Café, Laboratory for Social Intervention, Open Space Technology, National Coalition for Dialogue and Deliberation, Dynamic Facilitation, Deep Dialogue, Appreciative Inquiry, Global Leadership Initiative and others. This is not the product of some well-meaning, goody-goody types, but rather the output of some of the most influential organizational minds in the world.

My own experience using World Café, Open Space Technology and Appreciative Inquiry to address complex and chaotic situations from a holistic approach has convinced me that collective intelligence and in turn collective wisdom are real and offer incredible potential for all organizations in this time of information overload and complexity.

 Copyright Bob Cannon/The Cannon Advantage, 2003. All rights reserved.

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Are you thinking about selling your home? Would you like to sell
it by yourself instead of hiring a real estate agent? If so it
would be beneficial to review the pros and cons of selling your
home by yourself before hanging out the sign.

PROS

Selling your home without an agent means More Money. If that’s
not an incentive, what is? By selling it yourself you save the
fees or commissions (thousands of dollars) that you would have
to pay an agent.

You are able to decide the times for open houses and showings as
well as where you want to advertise. Because you are only
selling one home - unlike an agent who is working with many
buyers and sellers ? you will always be focused on the selling
of your home. You will have more interest in the sale than a
real estate agent who may be looking for bigger commissions
elsewhere.

CONS

Real estate agents are paid good money for a reason. Selling a
home takes a lot of time and energy. Open houses, dealing with
potential buyers, closing sales and dealing with the legal
issues are familiar turf for these people and their experience
can impact the sale.

Be realistic about what you are willing to do. Will you drop
everything to make a showing? Are you able to ‘close the deal’
and ask for an offer? It is not everyone who can take on such a
big project or can handle the tension of dealing with buyers.

However, if the challenge excites you and if you are ready for
hard work and willing to learn then it is not impossible for you
to manage alone. With a little know-how and a lot of energy, you
can sell your home without the help of a real estate agent and
reap the rewards!

Where do you begin?

Start with evaluating your home. How much can you ask? What work
needs to be done? How do you decide how much your house is worth
without asking too much and scaring buyers off or too little and
not making what you should?

How Do You Evaluate Your Home?

Choosing the right price for your home is crucial to making a
sale. You risk everything if your price is too far off the
current market. You don’t want to discourage buyers because you
are pricing too high and you don’t want to throw away equity
because of a low asking price.

Preparing Your Home for the Market

Now it’s time to look as objectively at your own home as you did
to other peoples’ homes.

Your prospective buyers will be scrutinizing your home; has it
been taken care of or neglected? Will there be expensive repairs
or are they hiding something? Taking the time to clean up and
make repairs will repay you with confident buyers anxious to
make an offer on a home that has been properly taken care of.

How to Advertise Your Home

Don’t worry. You’ve already done the hard work. Your research
has been conducted, your home has been cleaned and prepared and
you have all the vital information necessary to offer
prospective buyers. Now you need to get the word out!

How to Show and Sell Your Home

You’ve done your research. You’ve priced your home, cleaned and
freshened it up. Your sign is hung out and you’ve worked hard on
creating an intriguing ad. You told everyone you know that
you’re selling your home. Now you wait for the phone to ring.
How do you handle calls from buyers? What do you ask? How do you
get them to come visit?

Legal Issues

Selling and buying homes requires legal paperwork. Writing
contracts to sell your home is tricky business and you do need a
lawyer to help you. Find one by asking for recommendations from
family or friends or by looking for one in the phone book. Ask
for a consultation before deciding.

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You Can Get What You Want in your relationships!

The key to getting what you want from others and creating a new life is to know a secret weapon that all the people who are beloved and very popular have. The secret weapon is CHARISMA. With charisma you can have the love life and friends you want.

You can get what you want!

The key to getting what you want from others and creating a new life is to know a secret weapon that all the people who are beloved and very popular have. The secret weapon is CHARISMA. With charisma you can have the love life and friends you want.

What is Charisma?

Charisma is a personal attractiveness that enables you to influence others and meet new friends and network with the right people. I strong suggest checking out this page if you want to meet more friends, have a better love life and jump start you way to achieving your dreams.

How do I get Charisma?

The first element of charisma is “presence. Presence is your quality of commanding respectful attention. Think of how you carry yourself. Presence is very important because it is the very first step to making good first impression. So this is how you create your presence. Remember that you looks are very important. As I talk about before in my appearance section appearance will determined how people will treat you so make sure to look at all the little thing about how you look.

* Try to dress fashionable. If you not sure how that’s down go to a local book store and check out the styles people are wearing in the major magazines. You want people feel that you care about your image. But also make sure not to do to much because this can make you look a little insecure or trying to cover up something. So just use moderation in everything that you do. Also try to be a little creative with you look. You don’t want to look exactly like everyone else. You want to stand out and be different in a positive way.

* Watch the way you walk, sit, and stand. Always have a posture that makes you appear to be confident and at ease with your surroundings. If you’re not at ease with your environment, fake it. People can not read you thoughts until you make it clear through your body actions. So make sure to watch you body actions

* Be very sincere in whatever you do. Also use a friendly smile at the right times. So over use the smile weapon, but bring it out at times to ease the mood or heighten a situation.

* Knowing when to speak, and what to say when you speak. People who don’t talk all the time and think before they speak have more powerful influence when they speak.

• Watch how your eyes follow the crowd. At all times try got give off a impression of disinterested because that will make others feel that their is nobody worthy of your attention. This connects with their subconious thoughts of status. Never be “star-struck” because you are the star. You’re a prestigious person accustomed to being in high social circles. Fake these actions until they become second nature. Also remember to never stare because it is rude and lowers your status.

Acting like a king or queen

In a world where most people lack a high level of self-respect, it is easy to stand out when you have it and it shows. And if you don’t have a high level of self-respect,then fake it. Take note - the trick to faking it is to fake it with sincerity. Also watch your attire because like a said it speaks volumes. Calvin Klien, Sean John, Ralph Lauren, DKNY are just a couple of the trendy designers that can make you really look good with their clothers on.

When creating an aura of charisma use human instinct to your advantage. If you look like a thug, you’ll be prejudged as probably being a thug. If you look like your gay, you’ll be prejudged as probably being geek. And if you look like a charismatic person used to respect and even admiration, you will be prejudged as a person who is probably charismatic and worthy of respect and even admiration. These are just keep thing just to keep in mind.

Once you’ve been prejudged, it’s that much easier to create the effect that you’re after.

*Another thing to keep in mind is that before speaking to a person, you should ask yourself: How is this person going to interpret my next few words? What kind of effect are they going to have? What effect is it that I’m going for? Will I sound like I know what I’m talking about? Or will I sound like a fool? Will I sound confident? Or will I sound cocky? Will I sound sincere, or will I sound fake? Will I come across as a good conversationalist, someone who listens more than he speaks? Or will I seem as though I talk too much and therefore am not a good conversationalist?

A charismatic persona is thought of as being a good conversationalist

As a rule of thumb make sure that you listen more than you talk to people. Show a true interest in what they are saying and you’ll be amazing at how much people will respect you and treat you with respect.

Smooth is how you want to act. Let no situation seem to bother you even if it really does. This is how you want to go about acting in front of people. Also some tips you want to keep in mind is to.

* Never seem to be in a

* Always seem patient

* Your actions must seem natural and done with ease

* Practice being subtle

Also using Diplomacy which is a Tact and skill in dealing with people; subtly skillful handling of a situation involving others is a great way to build charisma. Learn to become a master of social skilss. If you are stuggling with that there is a newsletter I offer which you can receive daily which can help you with develop these skills. Some skills you must adapt to come off a level of diplomacy is to …..

* Never joke about someone else’s appearances or taste, generally two highly sensitive areas.

* Give compliments. Look for one or two qualities about a woman that make her stand out.

* Be self-observant. Hold up a mirror to your words and actions. This can sometimes come from other people telling you what they see in you, but that’s not the most trustworthy method.

* Practice modesty.

* Master your emotions

* Learn to be sensitive to the other person, listening for what they’re really saying.

* Learn to make people feel good about themselves .

Better relationships is a powerful key to creating charm!

Also when building a more powerful personality some other things you should remember to better relationships.

• Don’t criticize, condemn or complain.

• Give honest and sincere appreciation.

• Arouse in the other person an eager want.

• Become genuinely interested in other people.

• Smile.

• Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.

• Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.

• Talk in terms of the other person’s interests.

• Make the other person feel important-and do it sincerely.

Influence people to see your views

When you are going after your dreams or learning how to have charisma sometimes you’ll find that you’ll need to convince people to see things the way you see it. Here are some rules to keep in mind when trying to do that.

• The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.

• Show respect for the other person’s opinions. Never say,

“You’re wrong.”

• If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.

• Begin in a friendly way.

• Get the other person saying “yes, yes” immediately.

• Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.

• Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.

• Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view.

• Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and

desires.

• Appeal to the nobler motives.

• Dramatize your ideas.

• Throw down a challenge.

Leadership

When you have charisma you’ll find that at times people will look to you for leadership because you start to give off a aura that makes you stand out and seem like someone who can lead them. You may not know this but you are a leader. People learn and respond from your actions. Everyone can make a person who can make a difference in someone’s life if you just believe and apply some the things listed below.

A leader’s job often includes changing your people’s attitudes and behavior. Some suggestions to accomplish this:

• Principle 1 - Begin with praise and honest appreciation.

• Principle 2 - Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly.

• Principle 3 - Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.

• Principle 4 - Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.

• Principle 5 - Let the other person save face.

• Principle 6 - Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be “hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise.”

• Principle 7 - Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.

• Principle 8 - Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.

• Principle 9 - Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.

The effective leader should keep the following guidelines in mind when it is necessary to change attitudes or behavior:

• 1. Be sincere. Do not promise anything that you cannot deliver.

Forget about the benefits to yourself and concentrate on the benefits

to the other person.

• 2. Know exactly what it is you want the other person to do.

• 3. Be empathetic. Ask yourself what t the other person really wants.

• 4. Consider the benefits that person will receive from doing what you suggest.

• 5. Match those benefits to the other person’s wants.

• 6. When you make your request, put it in a form that will convey to the other person the idea that he personally will benefit.

Learn how to lead by example and you’ll find that if you follow the steps above people will follow you.

When you improve you charisma you’ll find that that you life will start to have limitless potential. The people you meet and things you do will be funnier, more exciting, and start to push you towards the life that you want!

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As a professional concert pianist I have over time developed a secret psychology that helps me in any situation. You see, quite frankly I need a psychology that helps me because the music business is a tough business. If you’re not sure you agree that it is tough then consider this; how many professional concert pianists do you know? Comparatively, how many doctors, lawyers, accountants, car salesmen, teachers or nurses do you know? Are you getting the picture?

The fact that very very few pianists actually make a professional concert career out of it shows us that it may not be that easy to do. Therefore, to keep going in an industry that continually turns talented pianists from aspiring concert professionals into teachers, one must develop a personal psychology to not only cope with the demands of the profession but, to keep going when all the odds say that it’s not possible.

My personal psychology includes focusing on four main areas which when developed can propel me forward regardless of the competition or the demands of the job itself. These are the mental, emotional, spiritual and physical parts of my life. However, it is the first three that I focus on the most. In fact, the mental, emotional and spiritual parts of myself that I do have control over are reflected in my physical world. My physical world is just a printout of how I am feeling mentally, emotionally and spiritually.

So, when I feel like it’s impossible to do something or achieve something in my career I turn to the three things that I can control. For example; let’s say that I have a new concert opportunity coming up that’s different than anything I’ve ever done before. As a matter of fact this is true. In a few months I’ll be performing an entire evening’s concert of my own music with a professional orchestra. That’s right, I have to compose, arrange and practice nine movements of “The Road to Santiago” suite, a selection of songs that I wrote while walking a pilgrimage in 2004.

To many people this would seem like a huge undertaking. Well, it is. But, I don’t really think of it that way. If I did, I’d never get it done. I cannot for one moment allow myself to get drawn into any negative state of mind. Therefore to cope, I turn to my mental state, emotional state and spiritual state to get me through it.

How does this work? First of all let’s focus on the mental state. My mental state means my logical mind. This is the part of my brain that draws upon its past experience to carry out the academic challenges of the job. In terms of my concert that would mean the preparation, practicing, business challenges and anything else that my brain has to figure out. To survive mentally with so many things going is only possible if I focus on one thing at a time. To achieve this I give one single a task 100% of my energy until it’s completed. Or, if I’m practicing, I give one piece 100% of my energy until I’ve learned it, then I do it again in 24 hours then again in 7 days. My retention rate for learning goes up 85% if I follow this formula.

Emotionally, it’s far easier for me to remember that the outcome is part of my journey. Will I get everything right? Probably not. I will learn many things on this project, some of which I do not care to learn. But, everything I learn will get tucked away in my toolbox to use for next time. My emotions will be easier to handle if I just remain calm about everything and not let others distract me from my true purpose, which is to do the best that I can do.

The spiritual parts of myself are most important in any situation. My belief system includes many teachings which I have adopted as my own truth. Examples of this are; I believe that everything happens for a reason. Therefore, no matter what happens up until the concert and no matter what happens during the concert, everything is perfect.

So far in this project many things have happened that I don’t like. But, the spiritual parts of me know that it all comes out in the wash. I can push the envelope of a higher calling without having to worry about the outcome. The fact is if I shoot for the stars I’m at least going to hit the moon. And, no matter what anyone says about me before, during or after this concert it doesn’t matter. What really matters is that I’m doing what I’m supposed to be doing and I’m going to learn something. Spiritually I believe that learning is the key to life itself. Otherwise, what would be the point?

If you are struggling in your own situation to find some answers consider adopting similar psychology. The, dive in and learn something. You’ll be far better off than if you don’t take the chance in the first place. I’ve never written or performed nine symphonies before. But, to me, the only risk is not taking one.

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No matter if you are renting or buying your home, everyone ends up with a clogged kitchen sink once in a while. Hiring a plumber to take care of a job can be expensive. There are several techniques you can use before you call in an expert.

It is wise to have some kind of drain cleaner on hand and to use it regularly to clean your pipes. This will prevent a completely clogged drain. Whether is a completely clogged drain or just a partial clog, your first remedy should be a plunger. These are easily found in several hardware stores and should be a part of your household tools. A plunger uses suction and pressure to loosen a clog. To make your job easier, coat the outer rim with petroleum jelly.

Start by placing the plunger over the drain, making sure the bowl or sink is filled with some water. Vigorously work the plunger up and down several times. When the clog has been removed, water should rush out of the bowl or toilet.

As talked about, having a drain cleaner on hand can be very useful. This should be your second course of action. Remove any standing water from the basin. Be sure to follow all directions on the cleaner bottle. Let the cleaner sit for several hours or even overnight before rinsing it away. If the drain is still clogged, flush the drain with very hot water and repeat.

If by chance the above methods fail, you can check the U-trap. This is part of the pipe that is shaped like a “U” is located under the sink. There will be a plug that you can unscrew with a wrench. Be sure to have a bucket to catch excess water. Take a piece of wire to scrub the inside of the trap, put new gaskets on to maintain a watertight seal.

If none of these procedures work, call the plumber. You may have a more severe problem that a plumber will be more capable of handling.

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